Dilemma: I have nine months associated with my partner and everything goes well, except for something. Sex is fantastic, but she wants me to hit you with a slap. At first I laughed because it seemed to me a very odd request. But it was clear that he was serious and here is the problem. I have hit it several times and even though it excites it, it makes me feel guilty. I feel sorry for some reason, but I wonder if I'm not exaggerating. She is not subject to everyday life and as she has said: it is her choice. I find it hard to write about it and I do not know if other people suffer the same problem. I want to enjoy sex without being anxious and interested in your opinion. I have not spoken to anyone about this.
Answer: Do not worry! What a strange strange whim is quite normal in unconventional sexual behaviors. Whether sex would be just the necessary activities, would be boring. Struggling, bites and other soft forms of masochism may not actually be the choice of many, but it would be surprising what an important role to play in the pleasures of being a mascot. Therefore, the word "consensual" is of primary importance in the vocabulary of any lover.
I'm not sure there is something like "normal" sex. In fact, satisfaction varies as much as personality. Therefore compatibility is the most important element in a relationship. The positive thing in your relationship is the fact that your girlfriend feels comfortable enough to share with you her sexual desires. There are many reasons why she can see the shock as a stimulant, but none of them is obscure or devious. In sex, we are hostages of the forces and desires that we do not understand and can not explain.
You do not have to feel guilty or embarrassed when you hit him with a slap if you enjoy it and it does not cause pain. Also, you do not have to do these actions if you are not comfortable. The right to choose is essential. What two adults choose to lay in bed remains among them and is in their hand.
If you are not feeling well with your girlfriend's requirements, you should communicate this as well as it can communicate banned things in bed. Maybe your girlfriend will find someone else who better meets the bed or can make a compromise for a "normal" sex life with you. However, the only thing to consider is how comfortable you feel with the decision.
Adapted by The Guardian
