When it comes to sexual pleasure, that of women is often left out of education and not infrequently, it happens to be left out of everyday sex as well.

To change that, Bustle 's relationship and sex editor Iman Hariri-Kia spoke with life, sex and love coach Shelby Shells.

Where to start?

"I like it a lot and I would like to make our relationship better," is a good way to start. Open and honest conversations (not lectures) are essential in a relationship, for sex and beyond.

You are both interested. What about now?

Now that you both know what you want to achieve, it's time to synchronize the bodies. Try intimate eye contact for at least 3 minutes or harmonize your breathing. The first seems less complicated.

Okay, but, weren't we talking about sex?

Once you are emotionally and physically connected, take your time to explore each other’s bodies at the same time or not. Maybe you dedicate one night to his body and he does the same for you, the next night. Proceed slowly and allow yourself other pleasures besides orgasm.

Thats it?

Remember that people and their bodies are constantly changing. It is important to keep communicating about what you want, as well as asking if you feel he / she is saying something to you.