According to dr. Carla Marie Manly, clinical psychologist, if you are thinking of writing to your ex, it is important to know why. Tired of not being able to send them memes and want to start a friendship? Or do you still sleep with their shirt dreaming of a future together? When you are clearer about your goals and needs, you will be able to be clearer with your ex-partner about what you are looking for. If your ex has needs that match yours, the result can be very positive in the short and long term. There are many reasons why you might want to write to an ex, but today we will only dwell on the slightly healthier reasons.
- When you want to recreate contact (as friends)
1. I finally read the book you always talk about. I wanted to tell you that I liked it a lot. I hope you are fine.
2. If you have time, I would like to have a drink together, just as friends.
3. Appeared on LinkedIn these days. Congratulations on your promotion. You deserve it!
- If you need to apologize
4. I have thought a lot about what happened between us and I am sorry for the way I acted. You do not deserve it.
5. I want to tell you that I am sorry for everything that has happened between us. I realized that I did not know how to communicate.
6. Hey, I was talking to Anna today and I remembered that summer when I got sick. I'm sorry to have behaved like that and wish you all the best to move forward.
7. Forgive me for exploding like that when we were together. It was not right for you.
- When you want to get your Netflix account back, or something
8. I know it's a little embarrassing, but are you still on my family's Netflix account? That my sister is complaining ...
9. I will be from your neighborhood next week because I have an appointment at the dentist. Can I leave my book there?
10. Can you send me the jeans I left with you please? You know I can hardly find jeans that I like.
- When you want to end the relationship once and for all
11. This will be the last message I am sending you. Please respect my opinion.
12. I do not feel good talking to you, so respect my decision not to write / speak anymore.
13. I'm not ready to "be friends".
14. I wish you all the best, but I do not think we should stay in touch.
Source: Bustle
