Decisions are part of life. You may need to choose the best vacation spot, job applicant, nanny or a place to live. However, the most important decision may be to identify the best partner for you. Relationships matter - a lot. They have consequences for your health, your reactions to stress and even the way you see the world. How do you determine if your current partner is the best of the best or at least the best for you, especially when you probably have your doubts about it?

Inspired by Lisa Keltner, psychologist, below find a list of 15 questions to highlight what matters most. Note that this list is not about another Tinder meeting or a short-term "summer fling". The questions focus on what matters for serious, long-term and lasting love. To take advantage of this "exercise", you need to be honest and above all, not lie to yourself. 

First, consider each question and answer with a simple "yes" or "no":

1. Does your partner make you a better person, and do you do the same for them?
2. Do you both feel comfortable with each other when it comes to showing how you feel or relying on each other, without the fear or worry that your partner will leave?
3. Do you and your partner accept each other for who you are, without trying to change each other?
4. When disagreements arise, do you communicate with respect and without contempt or negativity?
5. Do you share equally or satisfactorily decision-making, power, and influence in relationships?
6. Is your partner your best friend, and vice versa?
7. Do you and your partner think more in terms of "we" than "I"?
8. Would you trust each other passwords on social networks and bank accounts?
9. Do you and your partner have good thoughts about each other - without having an overly positive / realistic but blind approach?
10. Do your close friends, as well as your partner's friends, think you have a relationship that will stand the test of time?
11. Is your relationship free of "alarming signs" such as cheating, jealousy and controlling behavior?
12. Do you and your partner have the same values ??when it comes to politics, religion, the importance of marriage, the desire to have children (or not) and how to parent?
13 .. Are you and your partner willing to sacrifice your personal needs, desires and goals for each other (without always being the one who sacrifices or always gives everything)?
14. Do you and your partner have both acceptable and emotionally stable personalities?
15. Are you sexually compatible?

Interpretation of answers

The best answer to any question is a quick "yes". In any question it makes you think, leads you to pause or is “no” cut - this is an area that requires attention and improvement.

On the other hand, some questions may not be so important to you and your relationship. Therefore, there are 15 questions and no less. Are there any other questions besides these? Sure, but overall what you read summarizes important aspects of your relationship.

In relationships, there is little guarantee of what the future holds. Consider responses, feelings, and gather as much information as possible about your relationship. If you can, consult experts and remember to make the best decision, using both your heart and your head.

Source: Psychology Today