If you are single, do we feel comfortable with this fact or are you worried? Do you feel judged by others, or perhaps judge yourself for not having a partner? In most cultures, it is difficult to avoid the message that being married and having children are important conditions for happiness. We can believe that something is wrong with someone if he / she is single.

But does it condemn us to being single with a life of misery and isolation? Are married people really happy?

In a fifteen-year study of 24,000 people in Germany, researchers found that marriage did increase life satisfaction, but the increase was small - almost 1/20, and this change is likely due to the initial effects of marriage. The main author of the study, dr. Richard E. Lucas from the University of Michigan, concluded that most people were no more satisfied with life after marriage than before marriage, so marriage does not necessarily affect this.

Psychotherapists say they often have dissatisfied clients who are single. As a psychotherapist, I often see clients who are unhappy about being single. Some of their grievances come from feelings of loneliness or fear that they will be like that forever. But some also feel "ashamed" of others, but mostly also ashamed of themselves.

Are married people happier than single people? It depends on the person. One can be upset and lonely even if one is married. One might think that it would feel better to have a partner, only to find out later that this was not a problem. 

We need healthy relationships to thrive. A fulfilling partnership meets our needs for connection and intimacy, freeing us from the burden of unmet needs and improving our quality of life. But, after all, happiness is a personal task and not necessarily the partner's task.

Being single does not punish us for being alone. However, it must be said that friendships and relationships are a source of underestimated pleasure.

If you do not currently have a partner, keep in mind that periods of being single can be growth opportunities. Being alone can be an opportunity to work on yourself - perhaps exploring how past relationships failed or exploring all the opportunities offered to you around you. We can also feel joy in our own company: art, reading, writing, music, etc. Psychotherapy or exercise can help us learn more about ourselves, what we really want, and how to move forward in our lives.

If you feel unhappy that you are "single", remind yourself that you need to be more lenient with her. The right one or the right one can be very close, maybe even very far away. The important thing is not to lose yourself in the journey to find ~ him.. It is the only sure and eternal thing you have.

Source: Psychology Today