When you hurt others
Do you mind when someone justifies his bad behavior and lack of respect by saying "if you do not love me on my worst day, you can not love me for the best" ?! This kind of behavior has nothing to do with self-love because the love you have for yourself does not hurt others.
Some people think that by saying what they want or acting according to their desire they are showing authenticity. Prejudicing, hating or hurting others by thinking only of oneself is simply a toxic behavior of self-love.
When conflicts are constantly avoided
By avoiding conflict you do not show love for yourself. Conflict is a very healthy aspect in any kind of relationship, as it helps you grow.
If you find yourself silent in any conflict to avoid "negative energy" you need to reflect on what this conflict would bring and discover in yourself the real reason for avoiding it.
Self-love is about accepting ourselves, being human, and accepting the fact that we all make mistakes.
When promoting toxic positivity
"Positive energy" always sounds good, but it can boomerang when misused even when it's not the place.
Toxic positivity does not help you because in this way you deny your true emotions even if they are negative. In short, if you have nothing good to say, say nothing.
Kur vetë-dashuria kthehet në justifikim për sjellje të pashëndetshme
Shpesh njerëzit mendojnë se vetë-dashuria është të bësh çfarë ndjen ti se është më e mira për ty. Mund ta keqkuptoni një deklaratë të tillë, e cila ju inkurajon për sjellje të pashëndetshme. Veprimet që janë të dëmshme në afatgjatë s'mund të lidhen kurrsesi me vetë-dashurinë. Marrja e substancave të dëmshme për t'u ndjerë më mirë, apo konsumi pa masë i alkoolit e kthen dashurinë për veten në vetë-dashuri toksike.
Kur nuk i lë vend rritjes
If the love you have for yourself means not changing, it is not self-love. Self-love can turn into toxic behavior if it encourages you to become emotionally attached to others or to think with unbridled selfishness. Self-love means striving every day to be a better person, to understand others and to accept them by helping them change.
Source: Huffington Post
