All those whose relationship lasted at least a few months experienced something like this. A debate that constantly wakes up and is always the same story. Who's going to wash the vessels and when. When is the right time to fall asleep and why you never go at the same time.

Repeated debates can turn into a problem for many couples. Increase the stress of connection and reduce the satisfaction, confidence and security they receive from each other. But why is it always the same topic that leads you to debate?

1. For that theme among you has never been fully resolved

If an argument continues and comes to the fore again, chances are that you and your partner may not have resolved it as a matter yet. What you have to do is sit down together, talk long and see what the common solution would interest you both. Don't forget the support and gratitude. Maybe you're the one who needs the most support. Look for this out loud.

2. This debate can reflect an even deeper issue than that

Sometimes these repeated arguments reflect internal tension or a concern between the couple that has not been properly discussed. Some debates, seemingly stupid, are deeper than we think.

3. Your expectations should probably be said more clearly

Especially if the sherry is always the same. This shows that your expectations of your partner must be clearly clarified and argued.

4. You are given to partners who activate your insecurities

It is not extraordinary that unwitting people are "overwhelmed" by partners who highlight their weaknesses and insecurities. A healthy bond and dynamic growth also healthy does not cause this kind of suffering, but if our early links relate to chaos, abandonment, drowning, abuse, etc., etc. it is likely that even in the future we will be inclined towards this style and type of partner.

Burimi: Psychology Today