You have probably heard about love at first sight from those magical ones that start with intensity. Often meetings with friends or family, or the frequent meetings between you become so intense that it seems as if you have found the love of your life. Until everything breaks down because one of the two partners is not as involved as the other.
And when it's all over, it seems like you end up depressed, overwhelmed and don't know where to start. In most cases, the time to get over this bad feeling lasts twice as long as the relationship itself.
But why does this short-term relationship and all that "honey" leave one party in a bad state?
Short, few-month romances tend to reach certain (generally high) levels of affection and closeness. Our brain during this period is in the state of so-called "medium empowerment", which is considered by researchers to be very strong and makes you addicted. When the relationship ends you are automatically in a state of absence, which provokes the creation of depression and anxiety.
According to psychologists, there is a standard 3-month period in which the relationship goes from passionate to the most intimate stage of love and care. And when this happens, generally one of the two partners gets too close and the other lags behind. Seriousness often becomes the reason for separation because one of the parties is not ready. On the other hand, the second person remains with the good taste of the relationship until that moment and with all the dreams of how the future would have been.
The main reason why these breakups are so severe is that we don't allow ourselves to overcome the situation. To avoid feelings, we tell ourselves that we were not in a real relationship and that we have no right to feel bad. In turn, this translates into suppression of self-judgmental emotions, making it impossible to overcome as a situation.
Psychologists point out that it doesn't matter how the relationship was, each of us has the right to cry or be upset about the loss of someone, regardless of the time spent with him.
Suggested Articles:
