When we have conversations, whether with coworkers, loved ones, or even strangers, avoiding these phrases is a positive reflection of a healthy sense of self-esteem and confidence – things that our parents have the power to start developing in us from a young age.
Here are some of these phrases:
1. “I don’t know.”
Your parents did a great job raising you if you refuse to say you can't do something—not only because you learned to thrive amidst worry and uncertainty from a young age, but also because you're likely to be comfortable embracing challenges in adulthood, whether at work, in your relationships, or building a new routine.
2. “I’m ashamed to do it.”
Embarrassment happens when you worry too much about what others think of you. However, when you focus less on yourself and more on listening and being considerate of other people in these unique situations, you avoid sinking into the panic and anxiety of uncertainty. Great parents encourage their children to be empathetic and considerate of society, not using “shame” as an excuse.
3. “I don’t want to be a burden.”
Many insecure adults with low self-esteem rely on such phrases to justify their emotional repression and isolating habits. Good parents need to reinforce the belief that their children are worthy of taking up space and seeking support when they need it.
4. “It’s impossible.”
By reminding children that it is possible to thrive even in the face of novelty, challenge, or perceived failure, they do not use phrases like “It’s impossible” to avoid situations and interactions in adulthood that can lead to personal growth.
5. “I have no motivation.”
Practicing self-discipline means doing something even when you don't feel motivated. Good parents teach their children self-discipline from a young age, reminding them that in the end, motivation is just a good day, consistent work is what matters.
6. "We have nothing to do with it."
Instead of using this expression that makes you give up your responsibilities, good parents empower and instill self-confidence and self-esteem in their children, which motivates them to be more optimistic and approachable towards solving problems in adulthood.
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Source: Your Tango