There's nothing harder than breaking up with someone who's been a part of your life for a long time. And yet, sometimes, complete distancing - or as it's also known, "no contact" - can be the only way to protect your mental and emotional health.
For some, this decision comes naturally after a series of negative experiences, while for others it's an internal struggle between guilt and the need to free yourself from a toxic relationship. If you're in a dilemma, here are some signs that it might be time to leave for good.
1. The relationship is abusive - physically, emotionally, or verbally
If a person treats you with disrespect, manipulates you, or hurts you emotionally or physically, you have every reason to cut off contact. No one has the right to treat you badly, no matter who they are or what your previous relationship was.
2. Meetings with them lead to self-destruction
If every time you're with this person you feel driven to engage in harmful behaviors, such as self-harm, addiction, or risky decisions, then something is wrong. A friend who pushes you to put yourself in danger or a family member who forces you to carry an emotional burden that isn't yours are not people who deserve a place in your life.
3. It negatively affects your mental health
If after every communication with this person you feel worse than before, it's time to question their role in your life. Relationships should help you feel good, not leave you with anxiety, stress, or guilt.
4. You don't respect your boundaries and refuse to take responsibility.
Setting boundaries is essential in any healthy relationship. But if a person consistently violates them, despite your warnings and efforts, it's a clear sign that they have no intention of changing.
5. You've tried everything to fix the relationship, but nothing has changed.
A complete breakup with a person doesn't happen over a single incident. It's usually the result of many failed attempts to make things better. If you've tried setting boundaries, explaining things, and reducing contact, but the situation remains the same, it might be time to walk away.
6. You are aware of the consequences and are ready to face them.
A complete breakup can have major consequences, not only for your relationship with the person in question, but also for your connections with others, such as mutual friends or other family members. If you've analyzed this scenario and know that it's the best decision for you, then it's time to prioritize yourself.
Leaving a harmful relationship is not selfish, but caring. At the end of the day, no one has the right to make you feel bad in the name of “family” or “friendship.” Better calm than exhausted.
