Violence seems to be the "daily dish" served to our people lately. That said, referring to Jozi's slap in "BBVA" , Alba's psychological violence in "Ferma VIP" , both events recorded on national television, or the sad cases of violence between educators or children among each other in schools. Unfortunately, our country has been shaken quite a bit by the news of the black chronicle, from the murder of Martin Cani to the suicides of teenagers.

Have these cases been enough to raise our awareness?  I can't give a definitive answer, but we can easily find an impression of reality in the comments on videos with violent content.

I started this morning, April 24th, with a horrific video of a mother raping her son in the city of Durrës. In addition to the shock I experienced from the video, the comments were also shocking.

Some of them:

"Try filming me!", or "Where do you get the right to film?!"

No, it is not a cliché comment. Such a comment, which also receives hundreds of likes/approvals from others, clearly shows the approach of a part of our society towards violence. In slogans against violence we constantly see the word “Denonco”, but it seems that this call has not sensitized anyone. This comment shows that not only is violence perceived as normal, but denouncing it is a very distant thought and above all the perpetrator, after having committed the crime, must also deal with those who dare to report the case.

"We were beaten too, it did us good!"

Yes, our parents' generation did not know how to do better, and they even did wrong by violating us. Violence is not synonymous with discipline and who we are today is not defined by the number of slaps we have "taken in the face". In a world with all the information possibilities, one click is enough to understand that the consequences of violence are terrible, but not only physically. What we are today, a series of factors or traumas that can make our lives difficult, undoubtedly can have their roots in early childhood and in violence with circumstantial means, whenever our parents' nerves were exhausted.

"You who judge, do you have children yourself? Do you know how much they hate?"

Yes, children have whims, and therefore are considered such. Mature behavior cannot be expected from little ones. Secondly, (we know it hurts), a child's behavior is dictated by the way they are parented. So, if your child has inappropriate behavior, it means that they have not been raised properly. However, it is never too late. If you leave inappropriate comments aside, read some information on the Internet or in a book, maybe you will learn parenting techniques that will facilitate this very complicated and difficult process, for which children should not be blamed. Yes, there are many factors that influence the "whims" of children, from technology to parents who have to work hard to raise them, but a child's behavior in life is a choice, so violence cannot be the solution. Nerves, money and all can be returned, but not their childhood.

"He turned his back on his mother, he's a problem child"

In fact, the child is not the problem. He is the “mirror” that reflects what he sees and experiences in the family, school and society. In a society that normalizes violence, the response will be the same. The truth is that the “turned hand” is an alarm bell for only one reason: The cycle of violence that follows.

Parents/teachers have beaten us, we will beat our children and they will beat us back. This will be the cycle that will accompany us as long as violence is seen as the only form of discipline and the child is considered a “burden”. Parenting is challenging, raising and educating a child is quite difficult, mothers or fathers can often find themselves in situations they would never have thought of, but none of this should produce violence.

In closing: "Childhood is the kindergarten we play in when we grow up," so do not do anything and do not support any action that would make an adult never want to return to this kindergarten.

Note: Due to the sensitivity it carries, the video in question was not included in the article.

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