If you have just entered into a relationship, or have been together for years, you have probably thought about the question, "How often should we sleep together?" and this question is beyond sex.
"I'm not a fan of strict rules about when or how often you should sleep with someone," he told Elite Daily. Gary Brown, a renowned couples therapist in Los Angeles. The best way to look at the approach to this situation is to have an open discussion with your partner about how often you want (and have the opportunity) to spend the night together and reach a solution that respects both your preferences and your options. "Take into account school, work, who and where you live, the need to spend some time alone, etc."
Meanwhile, Natalia Juarez, another expert in the field, agrees that "everyone's circumstances are different" and "there is no magic and correct number". However, she recommends a "sleep-over" the first month of the relationship, two in the second month and three in the third until you know each other well enough to have conversations about your needs and expectations.
What if you sleep together too often? We emphasize: when we say "sleep together", we are talking about the act of falling asleep and not having sex.
Spending a lot of time together during the "honeymoon" phase (starting a relationship) can be a bit risky. If you start too intensely, after a phase of withdrawal, which will eventually come, it will probably cause the relationship to fade quickly. Think about the long-term goals you have with that person. Give priority to many activities and not just sleeping together (here we are mentioning it in both of the above meanings).
"Great sexual chemistry is nice, but it does not make you realize if you really match. If at first you spend time alone with each other, you can forget your passions, society, etc. It all depends on you, anyway."
Juarez adds that if a relationship moves too fast, ties run the risk of growing unevenly. She says moving slowly into a new relationship allows you to better manage your energy.
The experts asked were dr. Gary Brown, family, marriage and relationship therapist; Stef Safran, matchmaker, dating expert; Natalia Juarez, breakup and dating coach.
Source: Elite Daily
