If you've ever heard of the concept of "love languages," you know that this theory has become one of the most popular ways to understand how people express and receive love. According to author Gary Chapman, there are five main ways to communicate love in a relationship: words of affirmation, quality time, physical touch, acts of service, and receiving gifts.

The idea is simple: everyone has a favorite way to express love. By understanding our partner's love language (and letting them know ours), we can avoid misunderstandings and strengthen our relationship.

What are the 5 love languages?

Chapman's book, "The 5 Love Languages," was first published in 1992 after he noticed that the couples he counseled often misunderstood each other's emotional needs. This led to his definition of the five love languages, which are now widely used as a guide to healthier relationships.

1. Words of affirmation

This language is based on expressing love through words - compliments, words of encouragement, sweet messages or thanks. If this is your partner's primary love language, he/she needs to hear that he/she is appreciated and loved. An "I love you", an unexpected text or a sincere thank you can have a big impact on someone who feels loved through words.

2. Quality time

Some people feel love most when they spend dedicated time with their partner. This means that for them, full attention is more important than the activity itself. If your partner has this love language, make sure you are fully present – ??no phones, no distractions, just the two of you enjoying a meaningful conversation, a walk, or an uninterrupted dinner.

3. Physical touch

For some people, love is best expressed through physical contact - a hug, holding hands, a surprise kiss, or just being physically close. It's not just about physical intimacy, but about the sense of security and warmth that touch brings. If your partner has this love language, he/she will feel more emotionally connected when you touch them gently or show them care through physical gestures.

4. Service acts

Some people feel more loved when their partner does something to help them, whether it's washing the dishes, filling up the car with gas, or doing a small gesture that makes their day. For them, actions speak louder than words. If your partner appreciates acts of service, a small daily gesture can make them feel loved and appreciated.

5. Receiving gifts

Gifts, for some people, are a symbol of care and love. It's not about expensive gifts, but about the thought and effort behind them. A small letter, a flower picked on the street or a small surprise can have a big meaning for someone who feels love through gifts. What matters is the message the gift conveys: "I thought of you and I want to make you happy."

Are there other love languages?

Chapman defined his model based on these five categories, but that doesn't mean they're the only ways to express love. Some researchers and psychologists have also proposed other languages, such as sharing experiences or feeling emotionally secure in a relationship. At the end of the day, the most important thing is to understand what makes your partner feel valued and express your love in the way that makes the most sense to them.