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We've all said, "I wasn't upset," "I didn't take it personally," "It's no big deal."
But the truth is, a lot of things irritate us, even when we don't immediately admit it. Not because we're "dramatic" (I mean, sometimes we are, but we make excuses), but because some situations and people just know how to push the wrong button.

Here are 10 situations that we may have passed by with a "haha, no problem," but in our heads, a war is going on:

1. When he makes you a friend out of nowhere

You thought something was up and he said, "You're such a good friend." The most painful part? Not the "friend zone" itself, but the fact that another girl was chosen over you. And we pretend to understand.

2. When they don't introduce us properly

“This is… a friend.” Wait a minute, what?! What about all those texts, meetings, and nights with Netflix – am I just a “friend”? In the moment we may smile like peacemakers, but as soon as we're alone with her, an unforgettable TED Talk awaits!

3. When they reject us

No matter how indifferent we pretend to be when we are told “no,” a little drama starts inside us. What happened? Did I say something wrong? Is the other one more beautiful? We simply want to feel desired, and rejection breaks something inside us. Yes, we are human. 

4. When "brutal honesty" becomes a personal attack

The truth is good, but not when it's served with a knife. When he says "I'm telling you the truth," but then makes you feel like a deflated balloon, he hasn't understood the game at all.

5. When our emotions are ignored

We sometimes get angry and the person in front of us reacts as if we had told them that a 10-leke bill had fallen on the street, "don't be so upset." We don't want you to fix our problems, just listen to us. If you did this, you're a hero. 

6. When he says "calm down"

There's no more irritating word than that. If we were at level 3 of nerves, you just brought us to level 9. Why? Because, often, we're calm – until someone tells us we're not. And then, think about the consequences.

7. Careless behavior on social networks

We know it's "just a like." But when he likes every photo of those fashion-in-the-kitchen-wearing-a-dress-that-isn't-for-the-kitchen type girls, don't be surprised why it bothers us.

If you don't post any photos with us, you don't include us in your story, but you post every detail of dinner with friends... yes, it has an impact.

8. When you send ambiguous messages

One day you write with longing, the next day you don't read the message at all. We are neither a puzzle to be solved, nor your “psychological game.” If you want clarity, give clarity.

9. When they don't listen to us carefully

When we tell him about our day and he says "ah ok... That's fine", while he's "scrolling" on Instagram, no, that's not okay. And no, you're not "tired", you're inattentive.

10. When we are not a priority

We feel it when we're second, third, or last on the list. As much as we say "it's okay, I understand," we really don't agree with this treatment. We want to be your choice, not an alternative. Period.

_{Source: Your Tango}